This implies, to me, that when I find myself feeling it necessary to defend something outside myself, or something about myself, I need to ask whether a part of me really believes it is true. If I am moved to "defend" it, perhaps deep-down I have my doubts about it, and need to create evidence for myself or others to keep up the illusion that what I believe is true could be true?
Whenever I test myself this way, I find I DO have my doubts about the very thing I was trying so hard to convince myself, or others, was true. And further self-examination often reveals that it wasn't really true after all, but was something I need to be true to support my need to be right.
When I ask myself, "Would I rather be RIGHT, or HAPPY?" I sometimes decide it is better to remain at peace than make myself unhappy by fighting to be "right" (about something that is "wrong" - i.e. an illusion).
I don't feel a need to prove that the Sun rises in the East. If someone wants to argue that it doesn't, he is free to argue with himself. I have more important things to fill my limited allotment of Earth-time, such as enjoying the wonder and beauty of life, or looking for the flowers while side-stepping the cow-pies in the field.
When you face a useless fight
choose peace, instead of "to be right".
- Michael Star ©2001
Hey, this works for me. It might work for you. Try it, you might like it! It's your life, and your choice. Whatever you do is right for YOU.
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